What are your expectations in a relationship? What are you willing to give up , endure, sacrifice, which compromises are you willing to give into , how far are you ready to go ; just to have it work even thought the odds are against you? Whether or not you believe, these questions will be posed at some pointing time in a relationship ! Surely enough you may asked why should I be concerned about such questions or issues , when I'm madly in love ! or when I'm single ! The answer is quiet easy and simply , you must be aware of your expectations, then if you don't at some pointing time in your life, you'll be faced with such an issue , the situation could accur when you're unhappy and unsatified in your relationship , and you not knowing where the problem lies and what went wrong and when it started .
Meeting someone may seem quiet casual even having a few dates , but when you fall in love it's quiet a big difference ,it just like a miracle!! You forget who you are, you're colourblind, and tend to be surfing in a new sphare or demension and no one can get in your way, you even blockout, you shutdown, push aside all the things that really turns you off , or persons cautioning you to be carefull,advising you to keep it low or slowly, you settle in on agreements and accept situations that may be against your morals and beliefs , then you are unaware of all that's happening to you,your mind, body and being is overwhelmth with a feeling of intoxication , you're bewildered and not aware that you're in agreement with a situation that totally against yourself. At some point you're awoken , reality is at hand and suddenly astonishment and shock steps in and you're devastated having agreed to such a situation , which you can't controll or monitor. This is where it's said the pinkpurple Glases are broken.
This is where we say things have gone wrong! We may even pretend that we are not involved and that we're not the direct participants of the hurt or the situation simply said this neverending tragedy and we make the case external. We say he hurt me, this is what happened, my heart is broken: but be reminded brokenhearts happen through us and not to us and that 's a big difference. If you've experienced such a tragedy and your heart is broken here's something uplifting!!! There are ways and means to mend or heal those wounds of your's, you only have to be willing to give into help and advise and to make the necessary steps that leads to your happiness . Your broken heart can be healed when you're ready to : ACKNOWLEDGE , ACCEPT and RELEASE: You and you alone are responsible or can heal or mend your brokenheart.
Sometimes we think , someone else is in posession of the key to the erasing of our bad feeling or that this person could make us feel better but infact you don't need his/her presence, imput or permission to heal your broken hearts or to overcome such a tragedy. We are responsible for ourselves.
We have to start beginning to be honest with ourselves, to start the healing process. Then and then only can we be in controll of our lives. Here's what I did in the past:
1) Promoting or pushing my emotions positivily
Remind myself the following:
2) I deserve to be loved and not used or pushed around
3) I desire and deserve someone who is worthy of me
4) I want to be more loving in every aspect of my life
5) Blaming others won't make me feel better
6) Only a true and honest person deserves my love and affection
7) Let go of all that unnecessary babbage that bring's you down
8) Free your mind
.... and ask yourself , what do I want! Stop repeating this sad dramatical story, this only makes you sad, and brings you down. Start concentrating on how you want to be . Try being you ! Get involved in activitives, sport or meeting new people do things that you 've always wanted to do , or accomplished but have placed aside.
Show yourself another or other prospectives, if it's difficult, try something else, chances are that others are convinced that you're talented and this is where you should place your Know-how and your energy, they will motivate and support you and your undertakings.Keep focusing on your new projects ,endeavors and all that you can and will accomplish .
Be the person you've always wanted to be, make the first steps and do what's required to esse the tention in your life, no matter how difficult, give youself time to heal. Remember you are your very best friend, no one can care or love you more than you can,don't forget that hurt or brokenheart is temporary, nothing hurts forever and surely not bad experiences. Finally reminds yourself what a wonderfull and tremendous person you are , donot settle for less, then you've learnt to be the real you.
Overcoming a hurt or a brokenheart heart is never easy, but once you're over the situatuion you'll realize how thrilling this great feeling is , then you've learnt to acknowledge that, that relationship was unhealthy, downbringing, negativily loaded and not working for you. Now you're ready to accept that there has to be change, change that gives you the chance of analize yourself and the situation that you were involved in, finally you had the power to work for your well being and hve learnt to let go and release all that tention and agravation that had caused your unhappiness . Knowing your expectations is of great importance for your well being. Then a relationship is of no worth when you 're hurt.
Thanks for reading.
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