Gratitude

Gratitude for all  the small  things  that matters in life,for the air we breathe, for all the little tokens received,  for our health, for our daily provisions, to be alive to strive,  for our families, our friends, aquaintances,there's so much that we could and must be thankfull for : yet we're  almost never satisfied  with that which we  have or posess. Once a challenge or a task  is accomplished ,we speed up , we're on our merry way to the next, not giving ourselves the chance to say well done or  to analyze  or acknowledge how successfully we were  in achieving that goal ; we have programmed ourselves  for saying this is not enough, we force ourselves and even apply pressure, saying there's much more to be reached to aspire, this isn't it . In such situations we forget how blessed we are and  how thankfull we should be at life.

Have you ever  caught yourself actively saying thanks ?  During the last few years I've started actively  to show more gratitude for all the goodness in my life. I've come to know and understand what reflection of my actions and behaviour means and how to adapt them in my every day life. I've learnt that saying thanks is not just a notion of politeness ,a behavioural standard ,a compulsory action or a privailing custom, but because I feel it is due, it's a feeling that comes from the heart, that say I'm happy to be alive and well and for this very reason I'm wholeheartedly filled  with gratitude.

 A few days ago I sat at home in my living room, I was a bit exhausted from the weeks before and thought  I'd give myself a break,  I  sat there with closed eyes and after and hour I had freed my mind and my thoughts  of all the worries and troubles of the past weeks, I smiled to myself, for having the chance to be free from distraction and in the position to sit and relaxed and just having nothing to do in that  present moment, just then my telephone rang, on the other end of the  line was a dear friend of mine, she told me she was just thinking of me and thought she'd buzz me up just to see how I was doing!  I was so happy to hear her voice that  I'd actually forgotten to listen to what she had to say, it was a thrill that she was on the telephone and I felt gratitude, she was just ringing in to ask what she could do and if all was ok:  she just make my day much brighter ,  we spoked about so many things during our conversation  and it was just great. After bidding each other goodbyes , I couldn't help but to smile at myself then for the second time  during this day I felt gratitude. Not because I was given a very expensive gift  or invitation to dinner or to a concert but because a true friend of mine had given me time,  she took time out for me, she'd  called just in the moment when I needed someone to talk to.Oh how valuable and priceless friendships can be! I  have learnt over the last years that one has to count his/ her blessing , and through  this all I've overcame the few tragedies that I've encountered during my adult life.

As a mother and wife , I've experienced how wonderfull , heartwarming and precious it is , and what great feeling one has when gratuitous is given or received.  Showing kindness gives  a thrill, awakes unknown emotions that were simply hidden , and reminds us that such symbols of affection are priceless. It's just amazing how one small little token of sympathy,  empathy,of love ,of lending a helping hand can  change one's situation from sadness into joy, from loneliness into happiness, from darkness into light and make one's life lighter . It's great having such feelings,many times we're asked how are you, but we're just too busy with unimportant things that we hardly register that a friend is concerned about our well being, it's taken for granted,  sometimes ignored , or just neglected simply gone unnoticed  because at that present moment we're distracted.  During the last weeks, I've caught myself counting all those special blessing that have been granted to me.  I've started activity ,voluntaryly  taking  and investing more time and energy  for all that matters in life, not just about the things " that I THINK are important" but  those  people and things "THAT ARE OF GREAT IMPORTANCE  TO MY LIFE ", that's our family, our friends  ,acquaintances , issues that really matters.

Preoccupation  of the mind with irrelevant thoughts, illusions and wasting precious time,  doesn't  gives us that thrill of happiness,  it only leads to frustration, we loose our patience , the touch to reality,  empathy towards our  fellowmen ,even friendships goes down the drain due to minor differences , lack of interest , impatience and  greed ; unsatisfation grows and we become selfish not ready to invest time and energy for the little things in life that are of great effect, that are of great priority to us and  to those who are dearest to us at heart . We need  to keep asking ourselves  is this of vital importance, are our actions in this situation correct, are our behavior correct or have we been only  distracted ? What is it that  has  influenced us to  behave in such an irrational manner.  We need to stop being judgemental and start thinking  positive and  knowing , acknowledging  and analyzing our options!  Then the big answer comes so clearly yet so simple we must set our priorities right . Analyzing ourselves and our options and adhering to those feeling from within will free us of all the stress, disillusion,disorientation and distraction ,taking time out to be thankfull to a friend  or just being kind to someone  will / might filled us with unknown happiness  .I felt gratitude , knowing that there was someone, a very  good friend out there who was thinking of me, I was more than overwhelmth and yes I did express my gratitude to her.

My dear friend of course had just thought she'd ring up a friend but this was far more than that, she had given me her time, a listening ear, showed compassion, empathy  and remind me that she cared . In life we seldomly give great thoughts about the little thing we do, sometimes we're unaware that's these small little deeds can brighten someone's day,someone's life, our small deeds can trigger some great change , change that could rearrange a person's life,  his/ her mood or feeling, that just needed a push, a reminder  that there's a friend out there thinking of you, worried about you and hoping that everything's fine and if not they'll help you, whatever it takes. My request on you all, when you feel the need or the urge of calling a friend, a family member or a colleague , go ahead and do so, ask him/ her how it's going,  if you deemed it necessary to send a bouquet of flowers,  or a post card, or whatever you believe will/can create  a sparkle, go on with it , give a compliment when it's necessary,then you can never know nor can you  imagine what great joy you'll bring to someone's life in this very moment, it's just uncomprehensive. Invite someone you haven't seen for along time for a coffee or just to take a stroll in the park  ,hold the door open  for the person behind you who is also leaving,  offer that stranger your seat in the underground, it clearly seen that she has difficultives whilst standing,  this doesn't make you smaller, these  tiny little gestures may cause someone's life  to regain importance ,   gives someone the feeling of being special , allow someone to experience  such a great feeling of thankfulness, give someone back  that bright sparkle of happiness that was lost, such a small gesture is simple yet powerfull and may  trigger new impulse not only to this person but to you ,reminding you how great it is to give, love, share,care and extend to those who are in need,  whether it's asked for or not,  having done something for someone  without any  reason, without a cause ,making someone feel special  when only for a small moment, is something  that we ought to be thankfull for.

Thanks for reading.

Buried Treasures

It's incredible what you can find if you look beneath, the surface,of all that's around you. The first impression is not always, the ultimate convincing  answer of what always  lasts or counts forever.Then on several occasions we are misled just  because we allow ourselves be  blended, be convinced, be hypnotized or being forced to believe  without  proof , only because the surface impression  tells a beautifull story, yet what's seen has  little  or nothing to do with the reality.

Have you ever read the story of a man whose  last will  was for his four lazy, ungreatfull sons (Buried Treasures )? If not here's the story :  After buring their  father , they returned home only to find a small note. At first they hadn't thought this could have ever been the last will of their dad, but after searching the house from the attic to the basement all they had was this small sheet of paper. The words were clear and simple " Buried Treasures " . Of course their dad knowing his sons, knew they would start digging around the orchard in seach of some hidden box with weath; little did the brothers knew that  neither was there an hidden box with money nor was there one with precious jewellery,  nevertheless their hard work from digging would bring tremendous help to the unattended unnurtured fruit trees. After months of searching, and having not found the " Buried Treasure" the brothers gave up, they were angry and frustrated, having worked hard and finding nothing of material value;  they had no idea that their work would contribute to a grandious harvest that they' ve never experienced before. So sommer came by and the brothers mourn the lost of their dad and the missing treasure, then came autumn and it was  harvest time. They had so much to do with harvesting and selling that they had to employ other farmers to assist them with their harvesting. After all the fruita were harvested and  sold , the  brothers sat together counting all the returns they've made, and suddenly realize what their dad had meant. If they had'nt digged deep, the orchard wouldn't have yealed such a rewarding profitable harvest. These brothers have learnt their lesson.Hence it's our duty and  our responsibility to dig deep  or search thorougly enough to find the solution, that light guides out of the darkness, that road that leads us to that path we've always wanted to trod and to find the hidden answer  to open questions . We must be  in full awareness and   power of our capacity, knowing where our limits lies, where our boundries are and never forgetting our own strength, then we do at times unestimate ourselves , which is one of the main reason why we fail: Failure because we fear the unknown, failure due to insecurity instability and  inconfidence ,not wanting to take a risk, worring about the opinion of others without considering that , which is of utmost important to us.

For sure we are aware of our own preferences, for eg. our favorite meal, hobbies,  our housepet, our favorite singer, actress, film, colour,  our dream job or the accurate size  we wear , however what's more important is knowing the real you. Getting to know ourselves could be the most adventurous journey we undertake and may just turn out to be much more as rewarding and adding a positive aspect to our lives.

We need to take a few minutes off for ourselves, spend this time analyzing  ourselves and posing the questions: who am I, do I know my hearts greatest desire, am I happy with this current life of mine, the situation in which I'm presently involved in,where do I want to be and where am I now. These are just simple questions, but they may all have an  enormous impact that monitors  changes in our lives enabling us to  experience rewarding discoveries and opening new opportunies that were unknown to us,  if we  only allow them to. Knowing who you are helps you to master your life,  to make the right decisions , to say no when this is against  your will, to express your sincere feeling: you're no longer on the run trying to play a role that's quiet the opposite of  yourself , you're comfortable with the person you are and have the chance of dedicatiing time and energy on  you , on people, project and things that are meaningfull to life: Acknowledging your hearts greatest desire is the  ultimate gift one could ever bestow on one's self, then you are on the right track of controlling and monitoring you life and doing what  makes you happy. Chances are that you are able to fullfill your dreams and that the current life you live , is the life you've always wanted.

You have the choice of being what you want to be, you have the power of overcoming all obstacles  that may be stand in your way.Life is a circle , that is only  complete when all the links are connected together, if one link is missing then it's not whole, it's simply broken: is not as strong as it is suppose to be , cannot be worn as a fully intact jewel. If we are concentrated ,  are sure of our hearts desire and we're ready to be ourselves then we'll have that ultimate experience of immerging  in a deep embeded beautifull life that's filled with all those buried treasures  which only needs to be brought to the surface.

Never unestimate the greatness of depth.then those Buried Treasures could just be hidden below.

Thanks for reading , have a great night.

Guiding lights

Have a great weekend to one and all, just came across this  page and thought I must share!!!!!!!!

                            

                                      

 When in doubt never giveup, then there's always tomarrow......

My Expectations

What are your expectations in a relationship? What  are you willing to give up , endure, sacrifice, which compromises are you willing  to give into , how far  are you ready  to go ; just to have it work even thought the odds are against you? Whether  or not you believe,  these questions will be posed at  some pointing time in a relationship ! Surely enough you may asked  why should   I be concerned  about such questions or issues , when I'm madly in love ! or when I'm single !  The answer is quiet easy and simply , you must be aware of your expectations, then if you don't at some pointing time in your life,  you'll be faced with such an issue , the situation could accur when   you're unhappy and unsatified in your relationship , and you  not  knowing where the problem lies and  what went wrong and when it started .

Meeting someone may seem quiet  casual even having a few dates ,  but when you fall in love it's quiet a big difference ,it just like a miracle!! You forget who you are, you're colourblind, and tend to be surfing in a new sphare or demension and no one can get in your way, you even blockout, you shutdown, push aside all the things that really turns you  off , or persons cautioning you to be carefull,advising you to keep it low or slowly, you settle in on agreements and accept situations that  may be  against  your morals and beliefs , then   you are unaware of all that's happening to you,your mind, body and  being is  overwhelmth with a feeling of intoxication , you're bewildered and  not aware that you're in agreement with a situation that totally against  yourself. At some point you're awoken   , reality is at hand and suddenly   astonishment and shock steps in and you're  devastated having agreed to such a situation  ,  which you can't controll or monitor. This is where it's said the pinkpurple Glases are broken.

This is where we say things have gone wrong!  We  may even pretend that we are not  involved and that we're not the direct participants of the hurt or the situation simply said this neverending tragedy and we make the case external. We say he hurt me, this is what happened, my heart is broken:  but be reminded brokenhearts happen through us and not to us and that 's a big difference. If you've experienced such a tragedy and your heart is  broken here's something uplifting!!! There are ways and means to mend or heal those wounds of your's, you only  have to be willing  to give  into help and advise  and to make the necessary steps that leads to your happiness . Your broken heart  can be healed when you're ready to : ACKNOWLEDGE  , ACCEPT  and RELEASE: You  and you alone  are responsible or can heal or mend your brokenheart.

 Sometimes we think , someone else is in posession of the key to the erasing of our bad feeling or that this person could make us feel better but infact you don't  need his/her presence, imput or permission to heal your broken hearts or to overcome such a tragedy. We are responsible  for ourselves.

We have to start beginning to be honest with ourselves, to start the healing process. Then and then only can we be in controll of our lives.  Here's what I did in the past:

1) Promoting or pushing  my emotions positivily

Remind myself the following:

2) I deserve to be loved and not used or pushed around

3) I desire and deserve someone who is worthy of me

4) I want to be more loving in every aspect of my life

5) Blaming others won't make me feel better

6) Only a true and honest person  deserves my love and affection

7) Let go of all that unnecessary babbage that bring's you down

8) Free your mind

....  and ask yourself , what do I want! Stop repeating this sad dramatical story, this only makes you sad, and brings you down. Start concentrating on how you want to be . Try being you ! Get involved in activitives, sport or  meeting new people do things that  you 've always wanted to  do , or accomplished  but have placed aside.

Show yourself another or other prospectives, if it's difficult, try something else, chances are that others are convinced that you're talented and this is where you should place your Know-how  and your energy, they will motivate  and support you and your undertakings.Keep focusing on your new projects ,endeavors and all that you can and will accomplish .

Be the person you've always wanted to be, make the first steps and do what's required to esse the tention in your life, no matter how difficult, give youself time to heal. Remember you are your very best friend, no one can care or love you more than you  can,don't forget that hurt or brokenheart is temporary, nothing hurts forever and surely not bad experiences. Finally reminds yourself what a wonderfull and tremendous person you are , donot settle for less, then you've learnt to be the real you.

Overcoming a hurt or a brokenheart heart is never easy, but once you're over the situatuion you'll realize how thrilling this  great feeling is , then you've learnt to acknowledge that, that relationship was unhealthy,  downbringing, negativily loaded and not working for you.  Now you're ready to accept that there has to be change, change that gives you the chance of analize yourself and the situation that you were involved in,  finally you had the power to work for your well being and hve learnt to let go and release all that tention and agravation that  had caused your unhappiness . Knowing your expectations is  of great importance for  your well being. Then a relationship is of no worth when you 're hurt.

Thanks for reading.

Light On

Light On

 On several occasions we are approached with difficultives , we are shocked by life's  changes  and challenges ,  unaccomplished task,  unreachable goals and  setbacks, yet during the small pause that accur on a daily basis, we seldomly think of all those positive experiences, those met goals or even that great compliment we  had this morning from that stranger at the Metro Station. All we see or seem   visualize is : the broken coffee  Maschine  the inoperative washingmaschine,inoperative broken car. 

Certainly these equipments are necessary for the day's chores but they are not as important as we deemed them to be. There are things in life that are of great importance, eg our health, our family, friends,our emotions  ,our well being, a secured Job  and so what's wrong when the car is broken this should not be the end of the world nor should this ruine day , then all is not lost that we've worked for or what  we've believed in .Certainly life MUST go on, we don't have to be outrageous,we need to sort things out, to know when to say , I can do all things,just trust and pray. Life is never as we wish she were, there'll always be ups and downs, the road to our goals is never  straight, there will always be the Reroute sign.,that may seem confusing, but there's always some logic behind that serves some purpose.

I once read , if life was  always as we planned, we'd never be happy, we'd never know to count our blessings ,  we would never acknowledge  nor appreciate the small little highlights  that life has to offer, if everything would have been preditable. Life gives us the chance to make most of her , whether we see this in the present moment.she gives us the opportunity to try other  ways, make other options, take another step forward, risk losing security in order for us to gain more confidence and selfassurance. All these trials that we undergo has some dramatical impact in our lives. They make us aware that we have more potential. Hidden potentialthat need to be awoken, needs to be used to be applied  and impliment to reaching our goal to get  out of that relaxed Modus and to start being  actively involve in your own endeavours not waiting for someone to  say come I believe you can do this.

Everything that accurs in life is a coincidence. A seed is  blown from a tree, it fells in a flowerpot days later it rained. The owner  of this flower is not aware that something wonderfull is about to happen. He sees a small plant grow and admire this new life yet three months later  he's astonished whether  he realized that this is not just a plant but a lovely flower, eachtime  he is on his terrace , he smiles   to himself then he has seem a miracle unvieling just before his eyes. Not thinking  all is coincidence.We'll never be able to predict the future but we can surely be happy if we learn to accept life's reward, they may be not our first choice, may not seem to be the best , may seem too lowly but if we give ourselves a push and say, it's not the best  choice, result, situation ,but the best for me , probably this will make that very big change in ourl lives, then long after the light  is out the sun is set you'll keep glowing, then you learnt to live with a loving and caring heart. You've learnt to accept you, lives challenges, you've learnt to take up those small  thing or Duty that may at first seem so useless and have made your own day. You've learnt to light up your life.

SELF DISCOVERY

Two months ago  whilst involved  in a extremly private discussion with a friend of mine, I dropped a single question: first she was shocked,  then a bit irritated yet   one could see ,she was moved by the question yet yearning for an answer, just wanting to find out  what was meant,  when I posed the question   :" Are you in search of  yourself or are you looking for the new me" ?

Of course not everyone wants to be asked such question,then often this may seem impertinent, interrogative,intimidating or even questioning a persons life/ or lifestyle. The  questioned person may  even start doubting him/herself not knowing that the questioner is just concern above his/her lifestatus or situation.

Even though she was perplexed  she then asked what was meant,  and why had I such great  concern about her,her well being?The answer was simply clear,I cared for her, her health, her present situation,how she had let herself go  and how less she care for herself. This may sound  uninteresting, nevertheless this is not the case then ,often we are not able to see the how we treat ourselves. We tend to give up when things  doesn't work the way we had them planned,  and that me is left out , totally forgotten, sometimes even abused.

We are  discouraged and dishearted and in this  status  and sadly  this was exactly where my dear friend had found herself. In a situation which  was very unproduktive, unhealthy and by no means positive for her peace of mind, she was out and about lost and disillusioned. 

She was unaware that she's left the path leading to her own happiness ; her navigator was suddenly giving her useless  information, that were of no value. Yet she had not discovered that she  quiet distance from where  she wanted to be, she had even forgotten why she wanted to be there, that's when I decided to step in, to remind her who she was and that she had , had set goals.

I then reminded her  in few  words I'd once read, they were simple. These are  the words that have moved thousands of individuals across the planet " It's good to be alive to laugh , to love and to thrive"   In this moment I saw tears in her eyes, later she told me they were tears of joy, no one had ever challenged her, or even deared to approach her or to say  something this simple  yet so awaking and encouraging  to her. She  knew what was meant, what had to be changed and what had to be done  , she'd  stopped  living actively and had start existing.   She knew she had to make a new start.

In several situations in life we tend to forget ourselves,  we even ignore our own desires, , our everyday requirements,our heart most desireable wish even our own emotions are simply set aside ,we allow ourselves to be move by or encompassed by ideas or ideals that weren't meant to be. We 're captured in a world that's unhealthy for that new me.  Sometimes all we need to get back on track to grasp  that new awaking , a glimse of light, a small impluse or just the right words.   Then there's no better feeling that bring's more light to life than that feeling of Self Discovery.  Be your best friend forever.