Thought for today

IMSPIRING WORDS

Was just reading the  New O Magazine and found these lovely reminders and had to share. Hope you enjoyed reading. Have a great night.

Decluster Your Life

It's March and if you look on the outside, I'm sure,  you'll see more than one evidence that Spring is on her  way! She is here and here to stay  and this is the main big reason , why you should decluster from those unwanted assets that were gathered during the winter season! 

It's time to get some light, Space and effortlessness , in your life and the chance to enjoy the freedom of unwanted baggage! Have you ever thought  of a friend and have asked yourself later, how is it that she gets things done that easily? How is it that she spontaniouly arrange that party without all that hussle and bussle that you've always had?  How is it that you could call in without having made an appointment and her home seems to be always  in shape? Here the simply answer, she has learn how to decluster her life.

Simply said get rit of all those assets or baggage.  Whatever they are called, that deem little or nothing to your life! Easily said and can be simply achieved.  You and only you have to make that first step. Clearing up your home  means , clearing up your life, one doesnot have to be a Pyschiatrist to see and understand that these two goes hand in hand.  The best way to start is being honest to one self. Ask yourself do I feel comfortable with this bis Cluster of Assets, that deem no purpose, or do I need these belongings. How would I feel if I should  rid them all ? Does losing these thing makes me happier, or is my life easily organized with or without them? 

Why not start today, easy and simple, by packing a few things that are of no use to you in this present moment. Store all these items in a box marked " TO BE DISCLUSTERED". Store Box in basement or cellar' if you can live without these items  in this box for the next four to eight weeks, get rid of this package, offer all these goodies to a friend of donate to an institution , of just make a flee market donation. After doing this you'll see how free you feel, continue doing this regularly, then you'll see the difference in your life. Then your home is a always a reflexion of you, and your feelings . Start today  with declustering your life. Let the light shine in and feel free. Feel the Lighten your life. Thanks for reading

Love

Your heart knows when it's real, so does your soul, mind and body. Then if it's not real, there no reason to invest emotion, time, compassion  energy and feelings,  on someone who's not even sure of what he wants.

Bear in mind people who loves themselves are the only ones ,who can share love. People who are happy with themselves know how  to make someone feel happy. Hence the saying a person who hurts you, may just be hurting , without knowing , so if you walk around expecting people to notice you and you put out a certainly feeling, you'll get it in return.If you smile at the world , the world will Smile back at you. Wishing you all a happy weekend. 

The Winner of Hearts

Have you had failed partnerships  one after the other, or have you  been running after or waiting for Mr Right all weekend, only to find out he was not there ! Could it be  that you've not been searching where you should or you are looking in the wrong direction?Now here's some great amazing news for you, you've got the best chances of getting to know him,  so here we go! Why not start living your own life! This might sound old fashion and odd or even silly to many but most singles do not live their own lives, they live a life that's been imposed upon them by society, family or friends :here's my advice to you.

The best you can do for yourself   to be more attractive and sucessfull  is to LEAD AN INTERESTING and FULFILLING LIFE. A life that suits you, so start enjoying yourself , go partying if that's what you want, take a trip for a weekend  to London  and go shopping,visit the most interesting museums in the next city, do something crazy that you've always wanted to do but have had too many fears ,  why not book that wellness weekend with a BBF and if it's yours  go hiking and have much fun. Then only manipulative or insecure people wants to have someone on their side with little or absolutly no hobbies! Never drop your hobbies after finding someone,nor should you neglect your  single BBF, make you own life an integral part of your relationship with that newly met person, you'll find yourself much happier  and more indipendent whilst at it, which will navigate or steer your dating decision and help you find out if your new date is compatable with you.

Don't be needy or clingy ! Neediness repels most romantic partners and the ones it attracts tends to be inbalanced and uncertain in a complimentary way.(the person might  turn out to be a controlling freek).It's almost impossible to find the compatibile partner if your are PERCHING on the wrong tree or branch! Then you'll never find the songbird nightingale building her nest in a woodpeckerhole? These two birds are completely different, hence they build their nest to their own advantages . So you'll have to start going or visiting places where you would want to if you did have your dream man. Simply said , ask yourself where would I want to be on a friday night with my new boy-friend !  Then visit these places . Do not go to places where you feel uncomfortable, or where you do not fit in even if it's the best restaurant or club in town, it simply won't work and if only for a short time. Make a mental list of what you're looking for in a man but don't get carried away , then if you do you might be  risking not having the chance of meeting some precious gems. If your list is neverending you need to do some soul searching; then ask yourself  the most important question where can I find such a man.

Staying at home mourning your loneliness will never bring  your dream man in your life,then he's not aware of where you are nor if you  even exist! You can  only be sucessfull at home if  you take things in you hands, if you've decided to try ONLINE DATING ! This can and may  be a great alternative, don't be misled that there are only strange men hanging on line then I have found my husband on a DATING PORTAL, and that's since nine years and we've been happily married for almost seven years.  A friend of mine has also met her husband on a dating line, so why not give it a try,there's nothing to loose. No risk no fun . A second list is needed,  to remind you where you could find Mr Right,  finally visit  these places and be sure you'll meet him,and do not forget tocontinue to live  that happy life of yours,then  soon  you'll be meeting more men than you've ever expected.

Let bygones be bygones !There's nothing worst in  this world than carrying unwanted, unusefull heavy baggage! You should never be that mean to yourself, it will not change your situation,so stop pulling yourself down. It's not worth it! There's no use of thinking what could have been, then if it were meant to be ,you would still be with him. Do not allow your negative past to influence your future,the man  you're dating and who's crazy about you in this moment should be the only  one you're thinking of , don't try to  use your new relationship as a therapycenter, it won't work! If you have problems with past relationships and can't get over the hurt please seek professional help. Your new date is the wrong person to heal  you. Stop mourning a lost that never value you. Start being  you  and give great value to yourself, you're more than special, do not forget this.

Your exterior should be reflection of your interior.Your garments should show the world who you are and not what the world wants to see. Your attire should be a compliment on your person . You should neither dress to get attention nor to avoid attention. A woman who is overly sexy dressed attracts negative attention similarly to a woman overly conservatively dressed. Men are all a little different, but if you wish to attract a gentleman you should dress like a lady. Be  confident expressing who you are instead of seeking personal approval or validation through your clothing.

It's easy to attract a man with beauty, sexuality and even with intelligence, but what's more vital and important is to attract him emotional: let him feel drawn to you, give him the feeling that he can lay his  heart and his life in your hands, give him the security he needs, that feeling of being at home, if you can move a man  emotionally then be sure  you have reached  and touched his soul.

Try developing a healthy respectfull relationship, if you'd like to be treated with respect, then you must treat you man with respect, there are no garantees that there won't be heavy discussions and a bit of fighting , this is quiet normal in a relationship but you should never condemn, belittle or insult your partner when expressing your anger. Don't surpress your true feeling they need to be voiced, if you're upset tell him why, if dissappointed give him an explanation, he cannot read your mind, be strong woman, learn to controll yourself but to voice your opinion and concerns in a fair manner, try not to be judgemental and avoid controlling your partner, neither is he a child or a pet.Give yourselves enough time to know each other.

If you're looking for a relationship and your date only wants to have casual sex, then you should draw the line. Don't over run the boundries, when he has stated what he needs. Don't give him the feeling you're lost without him: If it's not going in the direction that it should, make a U turn or exist the train at the next station. Do not overshare, your new date need not to be told every detail in your life's story, somethings  are not for a man's ear. Start being interesting and not being an open book!

Nothing beats a good prepared menu and a carefully selected wine that compliments that meal ! Experts says it makes the meal round. The same can be said about couples who are compatibile . Do you have similar values, background or goals? Does he has goals in life? How does he plans to accomplish them? Simple but important questions. Don't over look large discrepancies in interest, they could pose great instability for a longlasting relationship on a longterm basis.Receachers have found out that couples with similar education  and views from life are likely to be sucessfull in their relationship compared to couples who have less in common.

Finally,  couples who end up being sucessfull in love and marriage weren't fools who rushed in, these couples gave themselves  time and had learnt to enjoy every moment they had during the beginnining of their relationship , they just let it flow.They had fun  in their lives and fulfilled their dreams, they had no worries about commitments then they were simply in love and enjoyed themselves.If you've met that man of your dreams, your heart will tell you, he's the one, then our intellect tell us what has to be done but our hearts tells us what must be done. It's your's  have fun whilst dating and  don't forget to live your life as you please.Hope you'll have  fun  whilst dating, take time and enjoy the flow. Thanks for reading.

Are You Dating Mr Wrong?

Almost every  woman has had some doubts or uncertainties   once or twice during her lifetime whilst dating! This is not only theory but a fact. If you're dating have  doubts  here are somethings  you might want to take in consideration. These are a few tipps or guidelines you may adapt or want to bear in mind : then you're not out to be engaged  in a relationship where you're not respected, not appreciated, not taked seriously , you're simply not willing to invest precious moments ,enormous energy and valuable time with someone who does'nt deserve you, you're not searching for   Mr Wrong.

Why not try to find a longterm compatable man who can give you the love you desire and deserve and have always longed for: a relationship where you have the chance of growing ,in which you feel love, happiness and joy in that life of yours. It's much better to be alone and to be happy and contented with your life rather than having a relationship which tears you down.It's all in your hands , here are a few  personal guidelines or recommendarions or even warning signs, posing the question : are you dating Mr Wrong?

 1) He thinks it's all about him:

If you're the opinion that your partner is only interested in himself  , his own wellbeing and his own world and gives little or no consideration of you and you're individual needs, you're certainly dating the wrong guy! Your inner feeling never lies to you, so be sure not to ignore such feelings. If your partner only thinks about himself and only does whatever pleases him even when his actions are against you or makes you sad you should think twice.

2)You're desperatly trying to impress him:

Are you of the opinion that you can't be yourself , when you're around him? Do you have the feeling as if you're always wearing a mask?Do you have to go the extra mile to impress him, nevertheless  er always demands more! Ladies if this is the case there is surely a problem, then your man must love you for who you are, and not for who he wants you to be! Be yourselves and no one else, if this is not enough for him , he doesn't deserve you, get rid of him!

3)He's too clingy (emotionally dependent on you):

If your man is emotionally dependent on you ,something is really wrong! It's quiet unhealthy for a relationship, then you should never be the only source of his  inspiration, hope,joy and happiness: you and your partner should have some time alone from each other to sparkle up or to keep the relationship alive. Be aware if you are the only source of joy in his life.

4)Your family and friends have never met him:

Have you ever had the chance of introducing your boyfriend to your family and your friends? When no then the question is why?Is it that he doesn't wants to be introduced or is it that  you're too embarassed that you refuse to let him in your social circle? Or is it that he has no interest in meeting your family or friends, if so,  then you have a signal of what  he feels or thinks about you. You should never allow such a situation  in your life,make some thoughts about you and this partner of your's. Ask yourself  the question : Is this what you've always wanted!

5)He doesn't listen to you:

If you feels that your partner never listens to you, you are for sure dating the wrong person! If you're sad and trys to share your emotions and they go unheard and unnoticed and he  shows no signs of empathy nor does he cares,  he only trys to change the conversation, just to speak about himself and his issues, even when he can see that you,re sad and need a shoulder to cry on, you can be sure he is not that man who's concerned about you and your wellbeing.

6)He never supports your aspirarions nor endeavours

Does he assists or encourages you  in your aspirations for eg  new job, hobbies or even a new start-up? Does he makes fun of your new ideas, predicting failure before you've even started? Or telling you it's not worth all that energy, time or financial investment, and gives you  the feeling of being a loser. If so be the situation, he's not worth having.

7)He gives you the feeling of being worthless:

He puts you down whether in private or public, how does your boyfriend makes you feel? Are you showered with encouragements and compliments or with critisism and dishonour?  Is he proud of you or is ashamed, you should be carefull how you are treated, no one should give you the feeling of be smaller that you are!

8)Disrespect and Belittlement

Does he discredits, embarasses and degrades you in the presence of others ? This is surely a sign that he has no respect for you as a person, he's only out to manipulate , to destroy, to abuse and to  hurt you in every possible way and by all means: Such persons are toxic for your health and a functionable relationship. If you've recognized all of these characteristics in your present partner , it's certainly your duty to handle, do not allow anyone to use or abuse you. You are as perfect as you are and deserves someone who knows how to appreciate , loves and adore you.

9)The womanize

This is the only thrill that keeps him alive, he is in his element, the moment other women are around him. He gives you the feeling  that you are not his one and only, he pretends you're only a mutual friend , he claims he's single and just wants to have fun and treats you like one of his buddies in public.  If given the chance he leaves the Club with one of his newly found girlfriends even when you're there. If you approach him and tries to speak to him about his behavior he says you're exaggerating, you should growup, you've simply too jealous. Ladies if you've ever experienced  one of the above mentioned characteristics in your date, then it's time to move on.

A man who loves, adores and cherishes you ,would do nothing to hurt, embarass  or degrades  you. You're worthy of more, then if someone loves you , he treasures you, he gives you the feeling of being someone special. Love yourself enough to set boundaries . Learn to value yourself.

When you know  the value of yourself , you won't allow other persons to use and abuse you, you won't beg people to be or stay in your life ,to be friends with you or to spend time with you or even to love you. Be confident in who you are, and remember not everyone can handle luxury! Not everyone can handle and is worthy of you.

Thanks for reading!

Gratitude

Gratitude for all  the small  things  that matters in life,for the air we breathe, for all the little tokens received,  for our health, for our daily provisions, to be alive to strive,  for our families, our friends, aquaintances,there's so much that we could and must be thankfull for : yet we're  almost never satisfied  with that which we  have or posess. Once a challenge or a task  is accomplished ,we speed up , we're on our merry way to the next, not giving ourselves the chance to say well done or  to analyze  or acknowledge how successfully we were  in achieving that goal ; we have programmed ourselves  for saying this is not enough, we force ourselves and even apply pressure, saying there's much more to be reached to aspire, this isn't it . In such situations we forget how blessed we are and  how thankfull we should be at life.

Have you ever  caught yourself actively saying thanks ?  During the last few years I've started actively  to show more gratitude for all the goodness in my life. I've come to know and understand what reflection of my actions and behaviour means and how to adapt them in my every day life. I've learnt that saying thanks is not just a notion of politeness ,a behavioural standard ,a compulsory action or a privailing custom, but because I feel it is due, it's a feeling that comes from the heart, that say I'm happy to be alive and well and for this very reason I'm wholeheartedly filled  with gratitude.

 A few days ago I sat at home in my living room, I was a bit exhausted from the weeks before and thought  I'd give myself a break,  I  sat there with closed eyes and after and hour I had freed my mind and my thoughts  of all the worries and troubles of the past weeks, I smiled to myself, for having the chance to be free from distraction and in the position to sit and relaxed and just having nothing to do in that  present moment, just then my telephone rang, on the other end of the  line was a dear friend of mine, she told me she was just thinking of me and thought she'd buzz me up just to see how I was doing!  I was so happy to hear her voice that  I'd actually forgotten to listen to what she had to say, it was a thrill that she was on the telephone and I felt gratitude, she was just ringing in to ask what she could do and if all was ok:  she just make my day much brighter ,  we spoked about so many things during our conversation  and it was just great. After bidding each other goodbyes , I couldn't help but to smile at myself then for the second time  during this day I felt gratitude. Not because I was given a very expensive gift  or invitation to dinner or to a concert but because a true friend of mine had given me time,  she took time out for me, she'd  called just in the moment when I needed someone to talk to.Oh how valuable and priceless friendships can be! I  have learnt over the last years that one has to count his/ her blessing , and through  this all I've overcame the few tragedies that I've encountered during my adult life.

As a mother and wife , I've experienced how wonderfull , heartwarming and precious it is , and what great feeling one has when gratuitous is given or received.  Showing kindness gives  a thrill, awakes unknown emotions that were simply hidden , and reminds us that such symbols of affection are priceless. It's just amazing how one small little token of sympathy,  empathy,of love ,of lending a helping hand can  change one's situation from sadness into joy, from loneliness into happiness, from darkness into light and make one's life lighter . It's great having such feelings,many times we're asked how are you, but we're just too busy with unimportant things that we hardly register that a friend is concerned about our well being, it's taken for granted,  sometimes ignored , or just neglected simply gone unnoticed  because at that present moment we're distracted.  During the last weeks, I've caught myself counting all those special blessing that have been granted to me.  I've started activity ,voluntaryly  taking  and investing more time and energy  for all that matters in life, not just about the things " that I THINK are important" but  those  people and things "THAT ARE OF GREAT IMPORTANCE  TO MY LIFE ", that's our family, our friends  ,acquaintances , issues that really matters.

Preoccupation  of the mind with irrelevant thoughts, illusions and wasting precious time,  doesn't  gives us that thrill of happiness,  it only leads to frustration, we loose our patience , the touch to reality,  empathy towards our  fellowmen ,even friendships goes down the drain due to minor differences , lack of interest , impatience and  greed ; unsatisfation grows and we become selfish not ready to invest time and energy for the little things in life that are of great effect, that are of great priority to us and  to those who are dearest to us at heart . We need  to keep asking ourselves  is this of vital importance, are our actions in this situation correct, are our behavior correct or have we been only  distracted ? What is it that  has  influenced us to  behave in such an irrational manner.  We need to stop being judgemental and start thinking  positive and  knowing , acknowledging  and analyzing our options!  Then the big answer comes so clearly yet so simple we must set our priorities right . Analyzing ourselves and our options and adhering to those feeling from within will free us of all the stress, disillusion,disorientation and distraction ,taking time out to be thankfull to a friend  or just being kind to someone  will / might filled us with unknown happiness  .I felt gratitude , knowing that there was someone, a very  good friend out there who was thinking of me, I was more than overwhelmth and yes I did express my gratitude to her.

My dear friend of course had just thought she'd ring up a friend but this was far more than that, she had given me her time, a listening ear, showed compassion, empathy  and remind me that she cared . In life we seldomly give great thoughts about the little thing we do, sometimes we're unaware that's these small little deeds can brighten someone's day,someone's life, our small deeds can trigger some great change , change that could rearrange a person's life,  his/ her mood or feeling, that just needed a push, a reminder  that there's a friend out there thinking of you, worried about you and hoping that everything's fine and if not they'll help you, whatever it takes. My request on you all, when you feel the need or the urge of calling a friend, a family member or a colleague , go ahead and do so, ask him/ her how it's going,  if you deemed it necessary to send a bouquet of flowers,  or a post card, or whatever you believe will/can create  a sparkle, go on with it , give a compliment when it's necessary,then you can never know nor can you  imagine what great joy you'll bring to someone's life in this very moment, it's just uncomprehensive. Invite someone you haven't seen for along time for a coffee or just to take a stroll in the park  ,hold the door open  for the person behind you who is also leaving,  offer that stranger your seat in the underground, it clearly seen that she has difficultives whilst standing,  this doesn't make you smaller, these  tiny little gestures may cause someone's life  to regain importance ,   gives someone the feeling of being special , allow someone to experience  such a great feeling of thankfulness, give someone back  that bright sparkle of happiness that was lost, such a small gesture is simple yet powerfull and may  trigger new impulse not only to this person but to you ,reminding you how great it is to give, love, share,care and extend to those who are in need,  whether it's asked for or not,  having done something for someone  without any  reason, without a cause ,making someone feel special  when only for a small moment, is something  that we ought to be thankfull for.

Thanks for reading.