Why not try to find a longterm compatable man who can give you the love you desire and deserve and have always longed for: a relationship where you have the chance of growing ,in which you feel love, happiness and joy in that life of yours. It's much better to be alone and to be happy and contented with your life rather than having a relationship which tears you down.It's all in your hands , here are a few personal guidelines or recommendarions or even warning signs, posing the question : are you dating Mr Wrong?
1) He thinks it's all about him:
If you're the opinion that your partner is only interested in himself , his own wellbeing and his own world and gives little or no consideration of you and you're individual needs, you're certainly dating the wrong guy! Your inner feeling never lies to you, so be sure not to ignore such feelings. If your partner only thinks about himself and only does whatever pleases him even when his actions are against you or makes you sad you should think twice.
2)You're desperatly trying to impress him:
Are you of the opinion that you can't be yourself , when you're around him? Do you have the feeling as if you're always wearing a mask?Do you have to go the extra mile to impress him, nevertheless er always demands more! Ladies if this is the case there is surely a problem, then your man must love you for who you are, and not for who he wants you to be! Be yourselves and no one else, if this is not enough for him , he doesn't deserve you, get rid of him!
3)He's too clingy (emotionally dependent on you):
If your man is emotionally dependent on you ,something is really wrong! It's quiet unhealthy for a relationship, then you should never be the only source of his inspiration, hope,joy and happiness: you and your partner should have some time alone from each other to sparkle up or to keep the relationship alive. Be aware if you are the only source of joy in his life.
4)Your family and friends have never met him:
Have you ever had the chance of introducing your boyfriend to your family and your friends? When no then the question is why?Is it that he doesn't wants to be introduced or is it that you're too embarassed that you refuse to let him in your social circle? Or is it that he has no interest in meeting your family or friends, if so, then you have a signal of what he feels or thinks about you. You should never allow such a situation in your life,make some thoughts about you and this partner of your's. Ask yourself the question : Is this what you've always wanted!
5)He doesn't listen to you:
If you feels that your partner never listens to you, you are for sure dating the wrong person! If you're sad and trys to share your emotions and they go unheard and unnoticed and he shows no signs of empathy nor does he cares, he only trys to change the conversation, just to speak about himself and his issues, even when he can see that you,re sad and need a shoulder to cry on, you can be sure he is not that man who's concerned about you and your wellbeing.
6)He never supports your aspirarions nor endeavours
Does he assists or encourages you in your aspirations for eg new job, hobbies or even a new start-up? Does he makes fun of your new ideas, predicting failure before you've even started? Or telling you it's not worth all that energy, time or financial investment, and gives you the feeling of being a loser. If so be the situation, he's not worth having.
7)He gives you the feeling of being worthless:
He puts you down whether in private or public, how does your boyfriend makes you feel? Are you showered with encouragements and compliments or with critisism and dishonour? Is he proud of you or is ashamed, you should be carefull how you are treated, no one should give you the feeling of be smaller that you are!
8)Disrespect and Belittlement
Does he discredits, embarasses and degrades you in the presence of others ? This is surely a sign that he has no respect for you as a person, he's only out to manipulate , to destroy, to abuse and to hurt you in every possible way and by all means: Such persons are toxic for your health and a functionable relationship. If you've recognized all of these characteristics in your present partner , it's certainly your duty to handle, do not allow anyone to use or abuse you. You are as perfect as you are and deserves someone who knows how to appreciate , loves and adore you.
9)The womanize
This is the only thrill that keeps him alive, he is in his element, the moment other women are around him. He gives you the feeling that you are not his one and only, he pretends you're only a mutual friend , he claims he's single and just wants to have fun and treats you like one of his buddies in public. If given the chance he leaves the Club with one of his newly found girlfriends even when you're there. If you approach him and tries to speak to him about his behavior he says you're exaggerating, you should growup, you've simply too jealous. Ladies if you've ever experienced one of the above mentioned characteristics in your date, then it's time to move on.
A man who loves, adores and cherishes you ,would do nothing to hurt, embarass or degrades you. You're worthy of more, then if someone loves you , he treasures you, he gives you the feeling of being someone special. Love yourself enough to set boundaries . Learn to value yourself.
When you know the value of yourself , you won't allow other persons to use and abuse you, you won't beg people to be or stay in your life ,to be friends with you or to spend time with you or even to love you. Be confident in who you are, and remember not everyone can handle luxury! Not everyone can handle and is worthy of you.
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